That time I was placed on academic probation…

CCW Spring Retreat ’16

I started my journey of undergraduate work in the Fall of 1998. I was a music education major at Jacksonville University. Music seemed like the one thing I was made to do on this planet. I was excited to start freshman year and have the college experience by living on campus. It wasn’t long, though, that I become disinterested in the academic discipline of music. Going to the practice rooms felt like a cruel chore and eventually, that feeling made going to class in general feel like torture. Maybe it was immaturity, or I just needed a new major. My scholarships were linked to my major so I felt stuck.

By the end of the spring 1999 semester, I heard my advisor say those two scary words: ACADEMIC PROBATION. It wouldn’t be the last time I heard those two words, but the first time was dramatic enough. Probation meant my scholarships were placed on immediate hold. Since I had already taken out a couple of loans, my options were limited as to how I would remain at JU. After it was all said and done, I decided to transfer to UNF – where my undergraduate journey would include many highs and lows (more lows than I am ready to admit) for the next 6 and half years. But on that April day in 1999, I honestly believed my life was over.

This is the moment that every young adult fears: the consequences of your actions being more severe than you realized. Yes, I had issues with JU’s music department, but I knew this was my fault. On the outside, I probably appeared confident and care-free. On the inside, I was reconciling myself to the idea that I had failed at life.

What I needed at that moment was someone to tell me this is not the end. I needed someone to remind me that while these mistakes were significant, they weren’t strong enough to predict my future. I needed someone to reassure me that I could overcome – that I was not the first person to be placed on academic probation or to be forced to transfer because of it. I did NOT need someone to make sure I understood the gravity of my situation – I was already doing a great job of that whether anyone knew it. I needed a unique voice that could speak into my college/young adult experience. I needed a voice of hope that my future was still secure in Jesus; and I found that voice in the guy who was basically my campus minister: Kendall Hunt.

Don’t get me wrong – I have amazing parents who have always cheered me on and they were very supportive throughout my undergraduate journey. I also had strong friendships with other young adults on and off campus. And I had a beautiful church family who continued to create a loving and merciful environment for me. But no one spoke to my life the way Kendall did in that season. Kendall’s job was to pastor college students, and that specific emphasis made his words ring so much louder than all of the others. I got through that season (and a few others) because God sent Kendall to be my college pastor. Years later, Kendall would take me to a leadership conference in Atlanta where he encouraged me to consider pastoring college students alongside my friend (and his future wife) Alison. I don’t think you need a degree to figure out why I told him yes.

I’m starting my 15th year leading ministry to college students this fall. Right now, young adults are driving up to UNF and starting to move in. Others will be heading to Flagler this weekend and JU next week. They are all hoping to have the best experience of their life on campus. But the truth is, some of them will hear messages like “academic probation”, “C grade for the first time”, “you were not accepted into the program” and “the funds have run out.” Friends, I am still in campus ministry because when this happens, I want to be the first person they call. I want to be the voice of hope through the seasons of their college experience.

Some folks think campus ministry is unnecessary – calling it simply “youth group 2.0”. Not only does that diminish the great work of youth leaders, but it also shows a clear misunderstanding of the importance of campus ministry. Ministry to campus students is a unique opportunity where fun and games fill up less than 5% of our time. We are missionaries and counselors who have the grand privilege of loving and leading emerging adults as they figure out where their life is heading. Campus ministry is vital to the continued development of young adults and critical for the future of Jesus’ Church. And I am humbled to work with an amazing team of people as we serve college students on three campuses in Northeast Florida.

Campus to City Wesley Foundation turned 5 in August 2016. As we head into our 6th fall semester, we are stronger and busier than we have ever been. We are convinced that serving college-aged young adults is important for the Church and the world. On Saturday, August 27 we are gonna celebrate all that God has done in the last 5 years and anticipate the miracles that await us in the future. I’ll be reflecting on that April day in 1999 when I thought my life was over and I heard that voice of hope from Kendall. And I’ll be re-committing myself to be that same voice for college-aged young adults for as long as the Lord allows.

5th_Anniversary_Instagram_PostPS Everyone (especially the older than college crowd) is invited to join us for the Anniversary worship night at Mandarin UMC on August 27. For more information, click here.

That time I was placed on academic probation…

Pastoring Millennials

This moment is all too familiar to local pastors: you are standing in front of the congregation, giving your best sermon and you look out to see that millennial in the pews. Someone’s daughter home for the summer or someone’s grandson who came to church as a birthday gift. You can tell by their body language & their facial expression that they would rather be anywhere else but there. This moment frustrates some leaders and discourages others. The disengaged millennial gets under your skin because you really want to reach them. You’re the kind of leader that wants to make space for them in the church. How are you supposed to do that when you can’t get them to simply raise their eyebrows during your message? Some keep trying to reach them (and I applaud you for that). Others just give up (and I get you too).

Hoping that the following words may help.

There are many reasons why millennials aren’t listening to older-generation leaders. It’s a decent sized list that includes irrelevance, judgmental rhetoric and condescension. There are many blogs and articles out there; google millennials and you’ll find them. I would like to offer one more that I think gets overlooked. It’s less an action and more of an assumption. It is the assumption of trust.

Once upon a time, a leader could assume that their congregation trusted them. Their education, their ordination or even their track record was all that was needed to win the attribute ‘trustworthy’. It isn’t that way anymore, and it definitely isn’t that way when it comes to millennials.

For this generation, trust is not an entitlement – it is earned. That might be a shock to some of you because you were raised to respect your leaders and take their word for it. And yet, in our own country we have a crisis of leadership and its root is trust. From classrooms to Congress, our leaders have made too light of the trust we placed in them. They can no longer assume that 20 years of experience or political incumbency is enough.

I can tell when a pastor is walking into the pulpit assuming that we trust them – and they will be wrong every time.  If pastors want millennials to listen, they are gonna have to do the hard work of cultivating their trust. You can waste time complaining about adding this to your long list of pastoral demands, or you can reconcile your heart and mind to reality: if you want millennials to trust you, you’re gonna have to earn it. But wait, there’s more!

Earning trust is not like getting a degree. There isn’t a certain number of meetings or kind words or likes on Facebook that give you long-term trust. With millennials, you earn trust everyday. Yes, every time you step into the pulpit, you have to earn it all over again. Granted, it gets easier when you are consistent. Trust with this age group is fragile and short-lived. You can spend time trying to figure out why this is case and who is to blame, and (in my opinion) you’ll be wasting valuable time doing that. With millennials, you are always earning the right to speak into their lives and point them in the right direction. And here me on this – millennials want to be led. But they also need to know that you genuinely want to lead them. The only way that message is heard is by earning their trust, little by little, every time you see them.

As a campus minister, this is my life. Every message, every one-on-one meeting, every weekend trip is an opportunity for me to earn the chance of pastoring college students. It’s hard work and it comes with a lot of listening, responding, more listening, serving, a little more listening, absorbing pain, some more listening and a few humble apologies. These students owe me nothing and I owe them everything. They do not have to listen to me, they do not have to follow me – but I am obligated to pour my life out for them regardless. After 5 years of CCW, I think it’s working. And guess what, I’ll spend the next 5 years earning their trust. I believe it to my bones that this is the most effective mindset for pastoring millennials.

So if you have read this far, you may be asking ‘how do I build trust with millennials?’ And I’ll respond with two points. One is not so charitable, and the other is more practical.

1. Really? Have we devolved this much as a culture that we no longer know the basic steps of building trust? Have we become so entitled to it that we view it as a transaction where I give you 30 minutes of a coffee chat for 5oz of your trust? Forgive my anger, but come on people! Trust is not a commodity to be purchased.

2. How do we build trust with millennials? It looks like listening. It sounds like honoring their journey and it feels like humility. It grows by asking for permission to speak into their life and remaining open to hearing their opinions without judgment. It becomes consistent when you thank them for the pleasure of knowing them and make genuine efforts to support them.

I’ve directed these thoughts at pastors, but it easily applies to all leaders of millennials – even parents of adult millennials. And let’s get real honest now – it’s not just millennials whose trust has to be earned right? I’m not sure why we played the game so long in church. I cannot figure out why we let decades go by letting the pastors (and other leaders) assume that simply showing up was enough to garner our trust. We are a society that longs to be led, and yet find so few leaders willing to prove they’ll treat our trust as more precious than their title. Regardless, today is the day to start afresh. So the next time you look at those seemingly disengaged millennials, ask the Holy Spirit to give you the courage and compassion to humbly offer yourself to them by earning their trust. You never know friends – doing this could make a positive change in a millennial’s life.

Pastoring Millennials

The Problem with Passion

This week, over 44,000 college-aged young adults took over downtown Atlanta for Passion 2012. I was humbled to be a part of the 53 people who went with CCW. I cannot even begin to tell you how great this year’s gathering was. There is nothing like worshipping with thousands of young people for a few days. Based on what I am reading in the twitter-verse, students from all across the US will be going back to their homes, campuses, etc fired up and ready to do something big for the fame of Jesus. And here-in lies the problem that many pastors and leaders will have to deal with as a result of Passion.

What is that problem? Simply, it is difficult to attend a gathering like Passion and then look at the ministry of the Church the same way. Many young people will go back to their churches, campus ministries, etc with a lot of passion and hope for more dynamic ministry to happen. Leaders will have several coffees over the next few weeks where a young person is gonna demand to “do something now”. They are going to cry for stronger worship gatherings and a deeper commitment to justice in Jesus’ name. They may even ask that the Bible Study have more depth and theological grounding. All of that and maybe more will happen because 44K+ young people showed up at the Georgia Dome for 4 days in January.

Some leaders will hear all of this passion and desire for dynamic ministry as criticism. They will reduce it to the typical conference high and wait for that young adult to get distracted by the cares of the college/twenty-something life. They will find 50 reasons why music cannot get better, justice cannot be pursued and vision cannot be clarified. Worst of all, they will allow the flame that got lit at Passion to dim or even burn out so that the problem caused by Passion will just go away. But what if it does not go away…

What if young people had more than a conference high? What if the Holy Spirit deposited a deep desire for God’s name and renown to be known in the world? What if the hearts of thousands of college students got exponentially bigger across those 4 days…so big that the lusts and temptations of this life got dramatically smaller? What if these young people never stop asking for churches to clarify their vision and never stop being willing to make sacrifices for the cause of the Kingdom?

You see, if the passion caught at Passion never dies, Church as we know it will have to change. And that is the problem that I am thankful for and praying for. May the young people who were set ablaze during this year’s gathering never get tired of doing whatever it takes to spread the fame of Jesus — and may their leaders, churches and ministries welcome their passion with open arms. Keep raising that white flag kids!

The Problem with Passion

Return on Investment

Fundraising to get CCW started this fall has been a new adventure for me. I am so grateful to the individuals and churches that have generously partnered with us. We have a dream of reaching the 250,000+ young adults aged 18-29 in Northeast Florida. Every dollar we’ve received confirms for us that this is a dream worth pursuing. I cannot tell you how motivating and exciting it has been watching God fund this dream.

A few weeks ago, I was at the Florida Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church. The delegation of clergy and lay members approved the 2012 budget which included a significant increase in the campus ministry line item. While many UM Conferences (as well as whole denominations) are decreasing their funds for campus ministry, Florida continues to increase its support of ministry to the next generation. As I sat in the room after the budget was passed, I felt that sense of excitement and motivation for the work I am allowed to do.

My excitement has been sobered tonight after reading a compelling post by Seth Godin. The title says it all: “Getting funded is not the same as succeeding.” Such an obvious sentence led to a convicting two minutes.

So much of our time is spent on garnering support. Not just for ministry, but for any new venture. This is an essential step, but only a step…not the destination. My response to the partners of CCW is not simply ‘thank you so much’, but also sweat equity and by God’s grace, results that people can get their hands, head or at least hearts around. It will be appropriate for the Annual Conference in a few years time to ask the question, ‘what did you do with that money?’ Expecting a return on investment is not just good money management, it is also biblical.

Most of us have already received more than our share of support and partnership for the dreams in our hearts.

Return on Investment